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When hearing the news that I had my last baby at home and am planning to have this one at home as well, the first response from most people is, "You're so brave."

This has to be one of the most irritating things that people say to homebirthers. The implication is that birth is dangerous and that we are willing to take on a tremendous risk to do it anywhere but a hospital. It negates the research and planning that we've done to come to this decision. It makes the choice about balls, not brains. After all, homebirth is "dangerous." Hospital birth is "safe." Therefor, it must be bravado alone that would lead a woman to choosing such an option. Right?

In 2003, over 20% of women had their labors induced, with a rate closer to 40% in many hospitals, while that rate should not exceed 10% (and has remained at 10% in most industrialized nations). Inductions are approximately 5 times more likely among planned hospital births than planned homebirths. An 1999 American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology "Green Journal" review of 7000 inductions found that 3 out of 4 of the inductions were not medically necessary. Inductions are performed unnecessarily for estimated size of the baby (too large or too small), going past the estimated due date, amniotic fluid levels that are low but not critically low (correctable in nearly all cases by rehydration of the mother), rupture of membranes without immediate start of labor, the mother being dilated/effaced but not in active labor, or scheduling reasons on the part of the mother or care provider. Approximately 40-50% of inductions fail (depending on the induction method used and the mother's Bishop score), and most failed inductions end in cesarean section. Inductions increase labor pain and length, and create, among other problems, an increased risk of fetal distress, uterine rupture, and cesarean section.

But homebirth is "dangerous." Hospital birth is "safe."

Over 30% of women in the US have cesarean sections, while overwhelming research has led the World Health Organization to set an ideal standard rate of cesarean sections at 10-12%, with 15% being the rate where more harm is being done instead of good. Cesareans are performed at a similar rate across all risk groups, low to high. The cesarean rate for planned births at home or in an independent birthing center is approximately 4%. Cesarean sections increase the likelihood of maternal death by as much as 4 times, and have other immediate and long-term heath risks for mothers that include, but are not limited to, infection, bowel or bladder perforation, hysterectomy, future infertility, and increased risk of uterine rupture for future pregnancies. Risks for the baby include respiratory distress, fetal injury, prematurity (if result of schedule section or failed induction), and breastfeeding difficulties. Four of the greatest causes for the increase in cesarean section are overuse of interventions during labor, concern for malpractice/liability on the part of care providers, failed labor inductions, and "failure to progress" (labor not progressing fast enough or regularly enough for care providers).

But homebirth is "dangerous" and hospital birth is "safe."

The ACOG and AMA have both come out against homebirthing, calling it a dangerous trend and referring to it as a "fashionable, trendy, [...] the latest cause célèbre," and they paint a horrible picture of complications arising in low-risk pregnancies with no warning that cannot be handled anywhere but the hospital. Despite that, the most thorough study ever done on homebirth safety, Kenneth C Johnson and Betty-Anne Daviss's Outcomes of planned home births with certified professional midwives: large prospective study in North America, BMJ 2005;330:1416 (18 June), found that the outcomes of planned homebirths for low risk mothers were the same as the outcomes of planned hospital births for low risk mothers, with a significantly lower incident of interventions in the homebirth group. The Lewis Mehl Study of home and hospital births, which matched couples in each group for age, parity, education, race, and pregnancy/birth risk factors, found the hospital group had 9 times the rate of episiotomies and tearing, 3 times the cesarean rate, 6 times the fetal distress, 2 times the use of oxytocin for induction/augmentation, 9 times the use of analgesia/anesthesia, 5 times the rate of maternal blood pressure increase, 3 times the rate of maternal hemorrhage, 4 times the rate of infection, 20 times the rate of forceps use, and 30 times the rate of birth injuries (including skull fractures and nerve damage). Breastfeeding success rates are higher and postpartum depression rates are lower for planned homebirths.

But homebirth is "dangerous" and hospital birth is "safe."

The United States spends more per pregnancy/birth than any other country, the vast majority of women in the US give birth in hospitals, and yet the US's maternal death rate is the worst among 28 industrialized nations and the neonatal mortality rate is the second worst. The Netherlands, where 36% of babies are born at home, has lower maternal and neonatal mortality rates than the US. Denmark, where all women have access to the option for a safe and legal home birth, has one of the lowest maternal and neonatal mortality rates.

But homebirth is "dangerous," hospital birth is "safe," and Brutus is an honorable man.

I didn't choose a homebirth because I am brave. Bravery has little to do with it. If anything, I believe women who choose to give birth in US hospitals are the brave ones, because knowing what I know about our technocratic obstetrical system, I can't imagine voluntarily choosing an obstetrician and a hospital for anything but absolute medical necessity. My decision to homebirth wasn't made in a void, but based upon years of research. I wonder how much research the average woman puts into her hospital birth? Considering how many times I've heard someone say "I'm glad I was in the hospital because..." and then given as her reason a non-emergent situation (such as fetal size or nuchal cords), I'd say not that much.

Call me stubborn, because I wasn't willing to accept out of hand the culturally held belief that hospitals are safer. Call me an idealist, because I believe that birth can be a positive, safe, and empowering experience for child and mother. Call me a nonconformist, because I choose to birth at home in defiance of a powerful technocratic system. Call me outspoken, because I can't keep my mouth shut when I hear about yet another iatrogenic birth calamity. Call me a "birth nazi," because I believe it's the right and responsibility of every woman to educate herself about birth and take ownership of her birth experience.

But brave? Don't call me brave. "Brave" has nothing to do with it.

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dolcedaze From: [info]dolcedaze Date: January 31st, 2009 08:52 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
That comment always annoys me too. If I'm in a bad mood I tell them it's a lot braver to risk all the problems than can interfere with otherwise normal births in hospitals.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 08:54 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I'd rather have someone flat out say "I think that's dangerous!" so I can give them statistics and articles to read than to have them go the passive-aggressive "Oooh, you're so BRAVE route."
miniaturize From: [info]miniaturize Date: January 31st, 2009 09:07 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I absolutely adore you for being so informed and not afraid to go against the norm for what is best for you and your children. I'm excited whenever I see someone talk about the benefits of home birth and I'm excited to someday have one. My hospital birth was a complete nightmare. I had no medical intervention, but was assaulted by a nurse and both my husband and I were forced to tears because, according to said nurse, I couldn't give birth without drugs.

Fucking bitch. I showed her though.

Hospitals are a nightmare. One of my former co-workers recently messaged me on facebook like "he was 9.6lbs so he was a c-section".. I struggle to hold my tongue and ask "what the fuck? how does that automatically mean you get cut?"

Wow excuse my mouth :/
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 09:09 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I usually respond to the "9lb baby = c-section" remarks by keeping a very straight face and telling them how my friend [info]isarma had her 11 pound, 23+ inch baby at home in water.

My hospital birth was a nightmare, too. I did have a tremendous amount of interventions, and it's not like I went in ignorant.
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ever_abstract From: [info]ever_abstract Date: January 31st, 2009 09:49 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Amen.
primroseburrows From: [info]primroseburrows Date: January 31st, 2009 09:57 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Call me a "birth nazi," because I believe it's the right and responsibility of every woman to educate herself about birth and take ownership of her birth experience.

I get called variations on this all the time. Thank you for posting this. I linked it over at my journal.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 10:05 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I was actually called a "vagina nazi" in my DDC (back when I initially posted the community rules). Yes, my vagina is totes oppressing Europe.
lucifera_shadow From: [info]lucifera_shadow Date: January 31st, 2009 10:24 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Word.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 10:26 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
You know THAT's right.
obscurredstar From: [info]obscurredstar Date: January 31st, 2009 10:45 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I'm incredibly interested in having my baby at home (whenever that happens..we're still working on the whole getting preggers part currently). Do you have a doula or midwife present? What are the legalities of doing it at home? etc. I haven't really done much research yet since we've only just started trying to conceive. But I love the idea of just being in a safe, comfortable, low key non stressful environment. And hospitals are not comfortable, nor low key and are high stress. And I very very much want to have a water birth, which is illegal in GA. Once you start pushing you have to be out of the water. And with my herniated disk, I think it's going to be really really painful and harmful on my spine unless I can do it in water ya know. Plus I think it's a better transition for the baby. Can you give me some of your sage wisdom oh vagina nazi? ;)

Miss you pretty girl. Btw..congrats on being pregnant!
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 11:09 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Water birth isn't illegal in GA. While I'm a huge advocate of homebirth, if hospital birth IS up your alley, you can have a hospital water birth at North Fulton Regional Hospital.

I am not personally having a midwife present at my next birth, but I can recommend several midwives who attend homebirths if you'd like to start talking to them. My mother and my friend [info]isarma will act in a doula capacity for me at home, but Jon will likely be the one who catches our baby.

Drop me an email at morgan AT mcfamiles.com and we'll chat more about this!
elvenbow From: [info]elvenbow Date: January 31st, 2009 10:55 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)

Wait a sec

This one? Grats! Two's such a handful I couldn't imagine three. You're so brave! ;D Took mine to the local kid's museum today and being outnumbered 2 to 1 was exhausting enough.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 11:10 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)

Re: Wait a sec

I'll be having #3 in the late part of March, most likely. Official "due date" is April 1st, but my kids have a habit of showing up about a week early.
forloveofbaby From: [info]forloveofbaby Date: January 31st, 2009 10:59 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I've mostly been a lurker in various communities ([info]naturalbirth being one) and I always love the advice and information that you post. I am not sure I can get my hubby on board for a homebirth, but some of you info has at least gotten him on board with supporting me in my quest for a natural, hopefully water, birth when the time for children comes.

Thank you so much and way to go mama!
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: January 31st, 2009 11:11 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I'm glad to help. If your husband responds well to literature from professionals, he might get a lot out of Dr. Marsden Wagner's Born in the USA.
aphephobia From: [info]aphephobia Date: January 31st, 2009 11:53 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Here via a friend, and WORD. Pregnancy's not an illness or an ailment.

Question: what do people in he States do when they don't have health insurance? (In Australia we have free public healthcare so people who don't have insurance/can't afford huge medical bills can still do hospital birth, but what happens in the US?)

Both my kids were born in a birthing centre attached to a hospital, and I had midwives looking after me rather than doctors. The whole idea of giving birth while lying on my back and attached to a fucktonne of medical equipment and not being allowed to move around or swear at people while I was pushing just... scares me. As did the number of pregnancy/baby books which pretty much told you about how that all worked like it was some part of the process of childbirth. (What To Expect went as far to make things like enemas and people shaving your pubes-- which seem superfluous and just bizarre to me-- part of the process.)

I'm all for people choosing what they want, but with that comes educating themselves about the process. Just doing what everyone else does because "That's what you do" isn't considering your options.

And... I think you're brave. Anyone going up against the enormity of the tide and speaking up about it is brava, if you ask me. :)
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 1st, 2009 12:02 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
What do they do w/o health insurance? Well, if they're low income enough, they go on Medicaid and hope they get a decent care provider. If not, they pay enormous hospital bills. Some families turn to homebirth, even unassisted birth, out of financial desperation -- while I'm a huge homebirth advocate, I feel that research and desire should be what determines birth place, not money.

What to Expect doesn't miss the mark when it comes to portraying hospital births in many US hospitals. When my oldest son was born a little over 8 years ago, one area hospital had a monopoly on birthing services -- they refused to allow doctors to attend births there if they attended births at any other hospital. Despite going w/ a CNM practice, my birth at this hospital quickly devolved into a cascade of interventions, including some of the most ridiculous interventions, like enemy and saline flush of my uterus for meconium (which actually increases the risk of meconium aspiration!). The experience was dehumanizing, confusing, and shocking. I swore then that I'd never even have children again, and it was another almost 5 years, a divorce, and a remarriage later before I changed my mind. Then I swore I'd give birth on a dirty towel in the woods before I'd step foot in another hospital for anything but the most emergent of situations.

Luckily, my husband assured me he'd get me a *clean* towel to birth on, and it all turned out great. :)

I don't feel brave for having a homebirth, but there probably is an element of bravery (or bravado) in actually speaking out on behalf of homebirth.
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muirichinnahali From: [info]muirichinnahali Date: February 1st, 2009 03:37 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
and this? this is why i love having you as a friend ;)

amazing post! you should post to pregnant to generate some discussion, lol
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 1st, 2009 03:45 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I thought about it, but really didn't want to post it myself, because I didn't feel up to dramaz today. It's been cross-posted in a few places (including the Friends of Iowa Midwives page!) so if you want to link it or c&p it, you can. If you c&p, though, credit it to my real name, not my LJ name. ;)
lafemmedesfemme From: [info]lafemmedesfemme Date: February 1st, 2009 03:41 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
brava, brava! excellently written! :-)
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 1st, 2009 03:57 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Thank you!
sandi1743 From: [info]sandi1743 Date: February 1st, 2009 04:25 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
thank you, thank you, thank you.
melw0103 From: [info]melw0103 Date: February 1st, 2009 04:47 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Awesome post!!
I get the "you're so brave" comment from most everyone that I tell that I've had a homebirth, not to mention 3 of them! And then of course the comment that they could never do that. My usual reply is that most of the babies born on the planet are born at home.
Rarely do I get someone who is interested in more discussion.
shevabree From: [info]shevabree Date: February 1st, 2009 06:37 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I am very certain I could have had my son at home. And if I were to somehow end up pregnant again.. I think the option should be there. But then I have to take into consideration.. My man thinks medical science is a very good thing. He thought I was nuts to go drug free. He'd have an absolute shit fit if I insisted on a home birth. And that is a stress I wouldn't want. I just wish there were real honest to goodness birthing centers in GA. Where I could get the more relaxed feel of an almost home birth.. but still be close enough to a hospital to ease the man's concerns. Of course this is a moot point as I don't plan on having any more kids. Oh well.
bridey From: [info]bridey Date: February 1st, 2009 06:59 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Awesome post!

I need to know your full name so I can appropriately credit you.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 1st, 2009 07:11 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
You can either credit it to my LJ name w/ a link or to Morgan A. M. McFarland. :)
mrsdewees From: [info]mrsdewees Date: February 2nd, 2009 02:37 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I like how people also say "omg why?" when women say they want a natural birth. The concept of "normal" birth is horrifyingly skewed.

I wouldn't call having a homebirth so much "brave" as I would "smart."

After reading through Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, I am inspired to have an UC with my next baby. My husband is still slightly torn but... I need to trust my body to do what it is suppose to do.

Did you catch my most recent entry? Good comments in it.

Edited at 2009-02-02 02:37 am (UTC)
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 2nd, 2009 02:41 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I read it when you first posted, so hadn't read all the comments. I'll go back and read.
devaretha From: [info]devaretha Date: February 2nd, 2009 08:16 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
A wonderful essay. But I would say that since we have such a cultural blind about birth as a natural process that does not necessarily require hospitals or intervention, it is really tough to come around to the idea that a birth with no doctors present isn't terribly dangerous. It took me years to come to believe so and I'm a researcher! In the end it was the data (especially the comparative country data) that won me over. That, and your dogged insistence ;0)

You're a great advocate for homebirth. I wish all the data were more widely known and more easily accessible from groups that seemed less experimental or hippy or [insert reductive label here]. As a communications person, I sometimes think what an ad campaign for homebirth would look like (and how many people it would help). I'd love to work on something like that one day.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 2nd, 2009 09:15 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
There was actually a great study done comparing hospital births with doctors, hospital births with midwives, and home birth with doctors, that found the best possible outcomes were from midwife-attended homebirth!
chinook_wind From: [info]chinook_wind Date: February 2nd, 2009 11:17 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Surfed in through [info]hapersmion, and I just wanted to say HALLELUJAH!!! If I ever choose to have kids, they'll be born at home. Especially because I'll be at "advanced maternal age" by then, and I have no intention of being cut open for it. Plus, knowing how my body works in the first place -- good grief, I can't think of any worse position to give birth in than flat on my back. Bleh.

But HOORAY for this! And congratulations on the little one on its way! :)
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 2nd, 2009 11:18 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Yep, if you're over 35 when you have your first baby, the obstetrical term for you "elderly primagravida." How awesomely condescending is that?
From: (Anonymous) Date: February 3rd, 2009 02:26 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)

Thank you!

Came here from a link posted on a homebirth forum. What a great post! Years ago I picked up a copy of "Homebirth" by Shiela Kitzinger from a clearance table and couldn't put it down. I wasn't even near getting pg when I read it, but I never once even considered a hospital birth because of what I learned. It was many years later before I got to experience my first homebirth. It was so wonderful! I've had four now and am looking foward to my 5th in June. I never consider it bravery. It is safety for my babies! I would be terrified to deliver in a hospital. And, as pps have mentioned, weight has nothing to do with it. My babies were 9-9, 9-3, 10-2, and 9-3 and I never had a tear or any other problems.
jexia From: [info]jexia Date: February 3rd, 2009 05:16 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I find this really interesting. The homebirth rate in New Zealand is somewhere around 10%, and is quite accepted.

nex0s From: [info]nex0s Date: February 20th, 2009 07:14 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
I know this was posted a while ago, but I wanted to tell you this story:

Yesterday I was having lunch with my 2 pregnant friends. One is a month ahead of me in her pregnancy, and the other is a month behind me. The one behind me is going for a VBAC, and the one ahead wants a 100% medicated hospital birth.

The VBACer said to me, "You are so brave to go for a homebirth!"

I replied, "I'm not brave at all. I'm terrified of hospitals and hospital interventions!"

The 100% medical birth said nothing at all. But at the end of lunch she asked me about doulas, and I emailed her some contacts and stuff yesterday. So, maybe I can help her a little - at least to birth vaginally even if not naturally, or not at home.

N.
raving_liberal From: [info]raving_liberal Date: February 20th, 2009 07:16 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
That's great! Change happens in small steps, generally, not in giant leaps.
faedemere From: [info]faedemere Date: December 2nd, 2009 02:19 am (UTC) (This lasts forever)

Well said!

What a well written post! I never got my homebirth, but did have a birthcenter birth with midwives with my 3rd child which was sooooo much nicer than either of my hospital births. Even then I had a lot of criticism from family, friends, and even strangers.

Thank you for being an advocate! The voices of homebirth moms need to be heard!
dexypunk From: [info]dexypunk Date: March 23rd, 2011 02:09 pm (UTC) (This lasts forever)
Hiya - was directed to this post by evel_lin.
I'm having a homebirth in the next month after having precipitate labour with my first baby. I find it hilarious when people tell me how brave I am. They don't realise that with my first baby, I was lucky to reach hospital in time and had I not, the risk of infection (from giving birth on the roadside, unassisted) and also of haemorrhage were enormous. I lost a fair bit of blood despite having syntometrine.
And yet, despite having a terrifyingly fast labour, and having to be in transition for AN HOUR because after the hospital journey, I then had to wait alone in hospital for 20 minutes before I was checked and then 'allowed' to push, I am still 'brave' for bypassing that whole mess and doing it where I'll be well monitored and feel comfortable.

My younger sister had her first baby last week. Her labour was a nice 6 hours, and she was in transition when she arrived at hospital. However, they didn't check her or the baby for half an hour after arrival and his heartrate was decelerating badly by the time they got her on delivery. She had an episiotomy in preparation for a ventouse, but pushed him straight out in one adrenaline-fuelled push. Had she been at home, the outcome would probably have been the same, but the decelerations would have been picked up far earlier.

The leading cause of maternal and infant mortality is STILL puerperal fever, not place of birth.
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